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Television’s Gay Agenda

It’s hard to see anything other than repressed homosexuality and the dysfunction it breeds at the heart of Tennessee William’s breakthrough play The Glass Menagerie and most of his plays that followed, including A Streetcar Named Desire and Cat on a Hot Tin Roof.

And while there has no doubt been the occasional heterosexual boy who had his life saved when a caring adult told him it’s okay, maybe even better, to be different, the events in the musical Mame, the music to which was written by out songwriter Jerry Herman, based on a novel by bisexual writer Patrick Dennis, more accurately describe something that virtually every gay boy experiences at least once.

It’s no coincidence that while the best gay writers of the 50s and 60s were making their mark on American stages, many of today’s best gay writers are making their mark on television. It’s the medium that arguably has the most influence and commands the most respect, so it’s where some of our top writers have gravitated.

Notable out gay television writer-producers clockwise from top left:
Silvio Horta, Allan Ball, Bryan Fuller, Patrick Sean Smith, Greg Berlanti, Marc Cherry

The real question is why these themes and ideas are finding such fertile ground among American audiences today, at least among more liberal viewers. After all, despite the fact that these television shows are not overtly “gay,” the ideas they promulgate are often very provocative, even revolutionary.

The truth may be that America, despite being held in the political thrall of right-wing reactionaries for the last fifteen years, still has a fundamentally liberal outlook and a yearning for innovation and new ideas. And where would the country most likely turn for these ideas? It’s a cliché to say that being an outsider in a culture gives one a perspective that “insiders” may not have, but there must be some truth to the notion; ironically, oppression always seems to have inspired great art.

In short, it might take an outsider to see exactly what’s wrong with a society. Who better to write insightfully about racism than James Baldwin and Ralph Ellison? Who better to write about sexism than Virginia Woolf and Margaret Atwood?

For most of our lives, we gay men navigate a treacherous road when it comes to family, friendship, suburbia, and sexual fidelity. So when it comes to critiquing and attempting to improve these same institutions, who better to do it than us?

 

zanefan's picture

This was an absolutely

This was an absolutely fascinating examination of pop culture and gay sensibility. I found myself nodding along in agreement to many of the points.

Well done.

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Rob's picture

"But because both halves of

"But because both halves of a gay male couple are male, with often similar perspectives on sexual matters, virtually every gay male couple, even monogamous ones, practices a form of the Decker’s openness, whether it’s about porn or just checking out a hot guy together as he passes by them on the street. It seems unlikely that many straight couples have this level of openness."

I don't think this is a fair or justified assessment. You are obviously arguing a point about how more open-minded gay men are. But my partner and I, for example, don't check out other guys together, and we don't watch porn together, and we don't talk about how other guys look. Not only are we monogamous in action, we are monogamous in words (no flirting with other guys, for example). I'm not arguing that all gay men should be like this. It's what works for us. We both have a certain level of low-level jealousy and lack of desire to think of either of us with or desiring anyone else, in any capacity (and to be honest, though I can't see into my partner's mind, I personally don't have any interest in anyone else, anyway).

Again, this wouldn't work for everybody or for every relationship, and I'm not arguing that the way we do it is in any way morally superior to how any other gay male couple functions. But at the same time, I don't think it's fair to characterize "virtually" our entire community as being okay with watching porn and checking out guys with our partners, and I'm even more uncomfortable with the concept that a straight couple who does that is mimicking "gay values".

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GayTVluver's picture

"Gay Values" QAF style

*rolls eyes*

Shame on you, Rob, for not being the sex obsessed, free spirit the gay media wants you us to be.

The central, and perhaps very “gay” premise of Swingtown is that the key to a healthy relationship isn’t monogamy or an adherence to any external codes of behavior, but rather a willingness to set your own rules in an environment of openness and honesty.

I hope "Brothers and Sisters" jumps on board our "gay values" soon and Scotty and Keving open up that relationship *sarcasm*

 

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Brent Hartinger's picture

"Monogamous"

I think you're getting hung up on my use of the word "monogamous." My point isn't about sexual fidelity (though that is a small part of it). Instead, I'm trying to talk about how gay men tend to view sex in general, how most out gay men are much more open about, and comfortable with, sexual matters because: (1) they're both "men," and men tend to share the same POV on sexual matters, or at least a closer POV than a straight man and woman, and (2) they've already broken a MAJOR social taboo by being gay in the first place, so other taboos (such as acknowledging the existence or use of porn) don't seem all that taboo--and, frankly, the "prohibitions" against them seem sort of arbitrary and hard to take too seriously. This is what I think the Deckers (if you've seen the show) exhibit, IMHO. Obviously a generalization like this can never describe EVERY member of a community, and perhaps it doesn't describe you. But I've been around for a few years, and it does describe all of the men I've dated and most of the gay men I've known personally. But your comment is a good reminder that, hey, it doesn't describe everyone. (I still don't think that changes the point of the article, however.)

 

 

 

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Defft's picture

I don't know

I usually like what you write, but this seemed very forced. Almost every example of "gay culture" given is equally as applicable to "straight culture." You may be seeing what you want to see, and then constructing arguments to support that. Maybe it's just that these shows are fairly universal, that one can interpret it as a reflection of one's own experience; or it might just show how universal the human experience is.
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wagville's picture

Nice article

A thoughtful piece. And you make me hard when you use words like "promulgate."

 

 

The blog uses words too.

David Ehrenstein's picture

What's interesting about this discussion

is that everyone is inceasingly aware that gay experience can no longer be ghettoized as before. "The Gay World" as it once existed was a fairly exclusive realm that few straights thought about much less dealt with. That's no longer the case. "The Gay World" has largely melted away. Straights are aware of the fact that we're in the room and have things to say. Some of them go so far as to look to us for our "perspective." Meanwhile we're trying to make sense of it all ourselves -- as evidenced by this site.
Distingué Traces's picture

All the heterosexuals I know

All the heterosexuals I know are polyamorous sex freaks, and all the homos I know are mild-mannered Episcopalians. What does this mean?

No, not "distant gay traces" -- it's distingué traces! (updated today!)