Best. Gay. Week. Ever. (August 29, 2008)Wednesday features the return of America's Next Top Model. If you haven't watched the show in recent seasons, this cycle might be worth checking back in for. Paulina Porizkova turned out to be a much-needed, edgy addition to the judges' table, and the new season features a transgender contestant, a first for the show. (At least we think it's a first — I've always had my suspicions about Cycle 6's Jade.)
ANTM Cycle 11's transgender contestant, Isis (left) Also on Wednesday, Top Design kicks off at 10:00 on Bravo. This season offers up 6 gay contestants (and a couple of 'em are ridiculously cute!).
The host, judges & out gay contestants of Top Design season 2 On Saturday at 8:00, Logo begins the second season of their documentary series, Real Momentum. First up is Jake's Adventures in Dollywood, where Scissor Sisters frontman Jake Shears fulfills a lifelong dream to meet his idol, Dolly Parton. Oh yeah, you could also check out the Republican National Convention. Might be worth it just to see how often, and in what context, gays and lesbians are mentioned. Make it a drinking game or something. BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE! A few weeks ago we blogged about an upcoming Bollywood film with a rumored gay twist. The movie is called Dostana and it involves a triangle between two best male friends and a girl.
From left to right: John Abraham, Abhishek Bachan & Priyanka Chopa One of the guys is in love with the girl, but the girl only has eyes for the handsome friend. So the friend pretends to be gay to redirect her interest to his less appealing buddy. Apparently this is pretty racy stuff for a Bollywood film, although by Hollywood standards it's probably comparable to I Now Pronounce you Chuck & Larry. Still, this one might be worth checking out — if nothing else for the incredible hotness that is John Abraham. Not sold on Abraham just yet? Check him out in the just-released Dostana trailer: On a more serious note, before signing off this week I also wanted to mention (with sadness) that the lesbian civil rights pioneer Del Martin passed away Wednesday on what was her 87th birthday. In 1955, together with her life partner Phyllis Lyon, Del started the first social and political organization for lesbians in the United States, The Daughters of Bilitis. Among many distinctions, they were the first lesbian couple to join the National Organization of Women and were long involved in San Francisco politics. On June 16th of this year Del and Phyllis became the very first gay couple to be married in San Francisco after the California Supreme Court's landmark ruling allowing gay marriages. The couple had been together for over 55 years. If you want to learn more about Del Martin, PBS's In the Life will air a documentary in October called, "Civil Rites & Civil Rights" which will include footage of Del and Phyllis' marriage ceremony as well as a tribute to the couple's life and work. Well, that's it for this edition. Bossman Michael Jensen will be back for next week's column. Now get on out there and enjoy your Labor Day Weekend. And while you're at it, go ahead and have yourself The. Best. Gay. Week. Ever!
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God Bless Cloris Leachman
For the record I love Cloris Leachman
...and didn't mean to be ageist, though perhaps I was. But not entirely sure it is ageist to say that an 83 year old (even a profoundly healthy one like Cloris obviously is) would have trouble keeping up with the younguns in a dance competition. I'm a very healthy 43 and I'd certainly have trouble.
PS: Can I have your grandfather's #? I need some help with my Frigidaire.
Sure Dennis
Forbidden Love?!
Ditto
OMG! It's like Matt Mitcham and NBC redux!
Lance, Be Warned!
Obama name-checked us in his speech
Interestingly, he managed to not take a clear positionon same-sex marriage even while acknowledge that "we don't all agree" about it. But that gays should "be able to visit each other in the hospital and live their lives free from discrimination". Very subtle.
I LOVED Obama's speech by the way! McCain will be hard-pressed to respond without turning livid purple and having smoke come out of his ears while doing so. They're probably going to be pumping Xanax down his throat every few hours for the next week until it's his turn to accept his party's nomination and give a speech.
He is at least listening
By mentioning hospital visits and freedom of discrimination it also shows that he is savvy. He wrote this speech. He could have mentioned distribution of property, or adoption rights but he used the two that are powerfully persuasive--being able to care for a sick loved one and the right to live free of discrimination.
By changing the way the gay marriage is presented he was able to humanize the debate and take the stick away from the bullies. I am not sure he advanced the cause in the same way Ellen and Portia’s beautiful wedding picture on People magazine last week did, but he added an element to the debate that is hard to disagree with. I think Obama represents a growing viewpoint—ones that are willing to call a rose by another name (civil unions) and say that it smells as sweet. It is not what I would like to see. But it is middle ground that I hope is just a stepping stone to true equality.
It was a good choice of words
First thing we need to keep in mind here: Obama still has to win the election.
So digging in on Far-Left causes like same-sex marriage would just guarantee a McCain presidency. Obama's not naive enough to believe otherwise.
Instead he bypasses the M-word, which is still where the bulk of America's discomfort lies, and instead talks about discrimination, which is something polls show a majority of Americans oppose. It puts the issue on the table without trying to shove the whole buffet down America's throat.
One thing I often point out (and get flamed for) is that even the Netherlands, far and away one of the most liberal societies on Earth, still had to go through a period of civil unions before they took the plunge and legalized same-sex marriage. But ultimately people saw that civil unions didn't cause the collapse of society, and their comfort level with same-sex marriage was such that they were prepared to move forward with it. That started the ball rolling in the neighboring Belgium, and provided a solid proof point for the debate in Spain, Canada, South Africa and Norway. Sweden and Iceland, which already have civil unions, are now looking at upgrading to gender-neutral marriage.
Sometimes you have to climb every step on the staircase and can't just jump up two or three steps at a time. Conservatives rightly fear civil unions as a stepping stone to same-sex marriage and that's why they oppose them. We shouldn't help them out by also opposing civil unions just because they're not everything we want. You can't always get all that you want right now. But you can take steps in the right direction.
Obama was subtly pushing a pro-gay message without touching the M-word and giving a freebie to the McCain campaign to hammer on in his acceptance speech next week. It was very well done strategically speaking.
The part of Obama's speech
The part of Obama's speech about us left me wanting. Sure, visiting one's partner in the hospital is important, but THERE'S MORE TO EQUALITY THAN THAT. And living free from discrimination? That doesn't necessarily mean equality. Obama didn't have to say the M-word, but since he was able to articulate the nuance in differences in abortion & gun ownership, he wasn't able to do the same with gay issues, IMHO.
The rest of Obama's speech was very good. He challenged EVERY Republican "strength" (at least what the mainstream media keeps on telling the public the Republicans are "good" at) - defense; the triumverate of God, Guns, & Gays; abortion; etc., and went after Republican attacks on him (unlike Kerry).
Ellen & Portia in People magazine appeal to the heart...
...while Obama's measured words in his speeches appeal to the brain.
Both are important in their own way to win over middle America but they don't need to be addressed by the same people, nor in most cases, should they be. Ellen is best being her funny, self-deprecating self, entertaining women in the middle of the day, being their friend, making them laugh and tugging at their heart strings.
Obama should be deeply ashamed
of his position on gay marriage. I realize it's a political minefield, but what he is saying is Jim Crow Law. No African American, particularly one of mixed race, should advocate "separate but equal" treatment. It is NOT equality. ANd if African American Civil Rights had been left up to individual states, not imposed federally, there would STILL be segregation in several states today!
Of course there are many reasons to vote for him, but on this one issue, let's be honest - he is WRONG. He probably has trouble articulating this issue because he is deeply ashamed of his position. I hope so.
I take offense to that.
I've noticed for a while now that my fellow gays (mostly those who are not of color) keep making this comparison of the Civil Rights movement to the Gay Rights movement as if they're the same thing. They are not. Don't get me wrong, there are deffinately similarities but similar doesn't mean equal. How is it your place to say what and how African Americans should feel?
Obama is entitled to his opinion regardless of his race whether you agree with it or not, he has nothing to be ashamed of. He's trying to be as pro-gay rights as he possibly can be in this election season without scaring off votes. This is also another thing that the gay community needs to get through it's head. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT US!!! Yes it would be nice if Obama could be the perfect gay positive candidate but its not possible. There are way to many demographics out there for him to appeal to. Be happy that he's for civil unions,it' basically marriage with a different synonym. And no, it's not Seperate But Equal. I call it a reasonable compramise.
But I can dream - CAN'T I?
afhickman
"The mountain has wings."
Civil rights are not rights if they only apply to the majority. Dr. King taught us that.
Yes, yes you can
I'm not sure what you're getting at but yes, you're right.
we stand in awe before that which cannot be seen...
What I'm getting at?
afhickman
"The mountain has wings."
Gay people can be reviled, fired from their jobs, evicted from their homes, spat upon, beaten up and even killed--just for being gay. As American citizens, we are guaranteed protection under the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Jim Crow laws regarding marriage aside, when Judges routinely mete out lighter sentences to felons who attack, maim, and kill gay people, we've got a problem. The laws protecting us from discrimination are already on the books; they simply need to be enforced. I have no intention of ever getting married again, but, if I chose to marry, and to marry a man, that right is already mine. Like those brave souls who fought for their Civil Rights in the 1960s, gays need to be out marching in the streets and demanding theirs. That's what I'm getting at--in fact, I'm already there. And yes, the two situations are analgous, because ALL men (and women) are created equal. It doesn't get any more basic than that!
I agree, but...
He's a politician, but he's also my candidate
afhickman
"The mountain has wings."
Of course I'm voting for Obama. Whatever choice do we have?
By the way, we both misspelled "analogous."
Dammit
and I was trying so hard to be staunch and serious.
We Stand In Awe Before That Which Cannot Be Seen
Yes we can!
Obama made his most powerful speech yet.
Also, it's never too late to go back and add a paragraph on VL, AfterElton!
I tell you what - you write it for me and I'll stick it in!
I'll write anything you like...
I've been hopelessly infatuated with your picture for quite a while now, so I'd be more than happy to write this week's VL blurb:
Now about that last part of your promise. I don't want to mess up anything you've already got going in your personal life, so I'd be very content if you would just whisper that last part in my ear a couple of times...
;^ )
-Sibelius
"It's curtains for you, Dr. Horrible. Lacy, wafting curtains..."
Geez, that's sweet
LOL
Unfortunately for him...
You're kidding right? You'd rank GWB above Obama?
Experience
is a vastly overrated thing. It's not experience that makes a person a great President, it's the judgments that they make on key issues. If experience mattered in an election, Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton, George W. Bush, Jimmy Carter, and JFK would never have been President.
If experience makes a great President, then explain the Presidencies of Bill Clinton, JFK, and to some extent Ronald Reagan. The three most "experienced" people going into the Presidency in the past 50 years were Richard Nixon, Lyndon Johnson, and George H.W. Bush. All three have been judged as failures as Presidents. Experience isn't everything. The character, personality, and judgment of a candidate matter much more to being a President than their "experience."
Experience
also leads to not double posting.
Obama!
I just watched Barack Obama's acceptance speech at the Democratic National Convention - and while I know all of America doesn't agree with his politics, I know everyone in this community would appreciate how Obama - in front of 84,000 people in the stadium and millions of people watching on TV worldwide - mentioned gay and lesbian rights, and got a huge, positive, loud response in return. He said:
I know there are differences on same-sex marriage, but surely we can agree that our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters deserve to visit the person they love in the hospital and to live lives free of discrimination.
Even though this is brief, I applaud him for being so direct - While he is searching for a "middle ground", he's not mincing words and trying to talk outta both sides of his mouth. He's straight-up telling you that he supports gays and lesbians and considers them family, just like he considers every other American. We've progressed a lot in the past few years. Hearing him mention gay and lesbian rights - it just makes me feel safe, and proud, to be gay.
Looooove it!
I'm with you on Seth Rogen
"Does this cocktail glass make me look fat?"
Swingtown
Obama Not the Problem, Congress Is
The Uniform Code of Military Justice for the U.S. Armed Services still criminalizes private, noncommercial, consensual same-sex activity between adults. On U.S. military bases, our people are still criminals. The Code was not impacted by the Lawrence v. Texas case. Without a change to the Uniform Code (section 925, Article 125), repealing Don't Ask, Don't Tell is pointless. And in case you are wondering, the U.S. Supreme Court consistently places the military above the U.S. Constitution (without any constitutional justification).
The only GLBT-related law enacted by the Democrat-controlled Congress since they took control, along with President Bush, is the re-authorization of the anti-gay Solomon Amendment (originally passed by the Republican-controlled Congress). The law forces non-discriminatory colleges to accept military recruiters who discriminate or else lose federal funding. This is just one of many discriminatory, anti-gay federal laws. Congress and President Bush also created and presently fund with U.S. tax dollars two foreign national governments that persecute and mass-murder gay people, Iraq and Afghanistan; these U.S. government officials are also responsible for sustaining the non-democratic, authoritarian regimes of Egypt, Saudi Arabia, United Arab Emirates, Yemen, Kuwait, Bahrain and Qatar. For instance, the USA government uses the U.S. Fifth Fleet presently stationed in the Persian Gulf as a threat against the regional populace to maintain these oppressive regimes, excusing their actions under the notion of protecting the eastern oil fields and industry of Saudi Arabia, Kuwait, etc. (fields that supposedly belong to the very people they are helping to oppress to keep the merchant-disguised-as-politicians/royalty in power). The cost of gas in the USA is the blood and freedoms of gay people in the Mideast.
Newsweek appears to be the only general publication that has bothered to investigate the atrocious situation for gay people in Iraq; our global community has known about it since the invasion. The August 26 Newsweek article is titled "Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Do Kill".
Thank you, Dennis!
Gawker is DEEPLY jealous of After Elton
And that's the long and the short of it. They missed the boat on the Matthew Mitcham story and they're steaming at A.E. for picking up the ball and running like hell with it.
Cloris Leachman may well surprise us all. That woman has superpowers, eveident from her very first appearance back in 1955 in Kiss Me Deadly.
I quite agree about Grant Show. Where HAS he been? He MAKES Swingtown.
Nice column Dennis.
Another Gay Cutaway
Best cutaway of the convention, gay or otherwise:
http://joemygod.blogspot.com/2008/08/we-have-our-differences.html
Well, there was also the cutaway to Morgan Fairchild...
Future epitaph: "It seemed like a good idea at the time."
Love the woman (especially her witty turn in "I Was A Teenage Faust"), but it was just funny as they were cutting to all the different faces watching Obama speak, and you're watching this diverse tapestry of America go by, and then...Morgan! I think Seth Rogen's a cutie, too--it's the teddy bear eyes. Wish he'd get over his script obsessions with guns and mayhem, though.Love, Love, LOVE Rachel Maddow
A blast from the past!
I thought the days of the guy in the that picture being identified as Brandon Routh were over. When the Superman movie was coming out, it was everywhere, and then people pointed out that it wasn't him and it pretty much disappeared. Just for the record, it's not Brandon Routh. It's a Brazilian model named Dimas Caetano. And you can see a LOT more of him around the web.
Established Disestablishmentarian - You've seen worse
...the Pursuit o Happiness
Have those words become nothing more than flowery 18th Century rhetoric or does the manifesto in which they were first published still have meaning for our lives today? It is impossible for me to know what it’s like to be Black or Native American or Hispanic… in America today, but I can speak with authority on the experience of growing up gay in a fundamentalist Christian home in the rural South. I can tell you from personal experience what fear, exclusion, isolation, and discrimination all feel like. The worst part of that period of my life was being so alone. There were no sympathetic friends or family members to whom I could turn for support. That was hell.
A previous post in this string suggests that our fight for equality cannot be compared to the Civil Rights movement of the ‘60’s so we should not borrow from the cache of weapons forged during that period of our nation’s history. With respect to those sentiments I must call, “foul!” The stakes in our battle against injustice and inequality are no less than life and death so not only should we use any and all means at are disposal, we must.
Today I live an open, honest life free from the fear of loosing my family, home, job, friends, etc. Having experienced real freedom there is no going back for me and I don’t make that statement for myself alone but also for the thousands of gay kids still living in situations like the one from which I escaped. If my determination offends anyone then you must and will learn to live with the offence.