A McMillan's Little Pieces

... which is exactly what we'd like to see Terry McMillan reduced to after reading about the colossally callous, downright dunderheaded comments that she makes about gay men in her essay for the new book The Honeymoon's Over: True Stories of Love, Marriage, and Divorce. One of our sassy sisters over at AfterEllen's blog posted an item on the story today, and I thought I'd bring it over here so that the kids that McMillan is insulting can get in on the action. The essay itself is called "100 Questions I Meant to Ask Him", and it's aimed at her ex-husband (and Groove-Back-giver), who later came out as a gay man. Here's a few of the choice questions that McMillan woud like to ask her ex, via the general public:

• "Was Vince [her ex's lover] just jealous of me because I was your wife and I was a woman and I was pretty and black and rich and famous? Does he hate all women because he's jealous he isn't one?"
• "Why do men like Vince try so hard to act like women, and why do men like you like them so much?"
• "Why are most gay men so gorgeous? There also seems to be a kind of narcissism inherent in your behavior because there is clearly an obsession with your looks, your bodies, and body parts? What is this about?"
• "Have you been surprised by the promiscuous behavior of a lot of gay men? Are you going to be like this or are you already?"
• "Why do so many gay magazines and books focus on cruising, bondage, sex: any-way-you-can-get-it, S&M, looks, beautiful bodies, etc., etc., with very little or no attention given to how to achieve or maintain healthy relationships?"

On that last item, I'm impressed that McMillan is keeping up with her gay rags, but am not quite sure to which issues of The Advocate she's referring. And I sincerely hope she never stumbles across a Maxim, FHM, or Stuff magazine, because that will likely cause her to swallow her poisoned tongue. The truth is, Terry, nobody's perfect. But to shamelessly generalize and hurl childish, prejudiced insults ("Does he hate all women because he's jealous he isn't one?" -- wow, and I bet you're rubber and he's glue?) at someone that you had a bad relationship with in a public forum is beyond reckless -- it's downright stupid. I think the only groove Stella's got these days is the one left in her forehead after she fell asleep on her desk during forgiveness counseling. PS -- that picture is of Terry McMillan -- just a different Terry McMillan (this one's a musician with no recorded homophobic essays, to my knowledge). I didn't feel like giving her any face-time.