Is a "Fag Hag" backlash brewing?

Haven't the "fag hags" always been the butt of the joke? Maggie Cho put the stereotype out there for all to see years ago..."I was your beard! I let you do my hair! I was your date to PROM for God's sake!" The female best friend (read: Fag Hag) has always been the punch line. They are loved to death but they are really loved because they are a mess. Hags are hardly ever confident, independent women...those women are married or two busy to be unceremoniously dumped for some trick while out at a bar with the "boys".

I like the article but the use of Rick and Steve is a poor example to base anything off of...the show goes for the most obvious humor possible. So far it's written itself with a collection of stereotypes from all areas of society.

Has Marc and Amanda's relationship really been portrayed negatively?

I think it's high time we let go of the fag hag storyline in TV and film. It's old and tired. I'm glad shows are starting to poke more obvious fun at it. I agree with the first post, I always thought Grace was part of the joke. I mean she was a freaking crazy person, not someone you admire or say you want to be like. The fag hag has always been a little sad in my view. I have known a few people in real life and they are typically very depressed people who are using the gay man for things they shouldn't. Will and Grace is the perfect example. Their relationship was so unhealthy that at times it went beyond funny into the psychologically damaging. Let the fag hags go. We deserve better storylines anyway. Besides the only reason shows and movies do it is so they can have sexless gay men running around not to offend anyone. It's just sad all around.

One of the recurring raps against the gay community is that it's always all about us. Roseanne Barr took a lot of crap for saying as much, but she had a point. I'd really love to see rainbow flags and contingents in marches for cures of breast cancer, alzheimer's, and birth defects... for better care of our soldiers and veterans... against racism and inequality for other people. Not simply for our own community "pride."

But even without that kind of solidarity with other groups, I'm deeply bothered that way too many of us react with rage when we're treated with contempt, but we yawn and shrug when someone like Anne Hathaway gets called a hag by a hack from a major weekly publication because "95% of her friends are gay men."

I think we all need to ask and answer one simple question: If we don't defend our friends do we deserve them?

 

Maybe when we get our full piece of the pie then we can start paying attention to other people's problems. Don't we have enough filling our plates now without worrying about everyone else?  Do other minorities get called on the carpet for bull**** like "it's all about us"?  Give me a break.

- Kirby, moviedearest.blogspot.com

Reviewing my life, I'm thinking I may or may not be a fag hag, but I have serious potential to become one if I'm not already. But it probably helps that my favorite gay man(and, come to think of it, my second favorite) is 300 miles away.

So I don't think it's all bad to be a fag hag, and as it appears to me gay people in general are more accepting of people's flaws and idiosyncrasies.

From all the things I've done, I've met different types of groups: snobs at my church (i'm agnostic now), ghetto people at my school, people laidback but still driven at my work, majority overly competitive people at speech & debate, etc.

The things I've done with lgbtq people and other allies have always stuck out as some of the most inspiring. So if I decide I am a faghag, I'll be cool with that.