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Actually, the article reads a bit like propaganda for the Ex-Gay movement specifically because it doesn't mention bisexuality in anyway.

Indeed, it's mostly filled with insinuations that the guys mentioned were somehow mislead into homosexuality either by same-sex encounters or the ease of getting laid by men as opposed to with women.  It actually says that these men "decided" that they were gay and later "decided" that they were "wrong".

This is pretty much what the Ex-Gay groups are saying these days.  That people with homosexual attractions are being "convinced" by others that they must be gay and cannot be straight, and so must live a "homosexual lifestyle".

No suggestion is made here that these guys might be bisexual.  Instead it is pretty much directly stated that they experimented with homosexuality and then went on to healthy, happy heterosexual life without a hitch.

The thing is like a piece of stealth literature from Exodus International!

"Bisexuals switch sexual partners like most poeple switch shoes"?

That is so offensive I don't really know where to begin. Let alone the homophobia behind the whole "gay guys will screw anything, so it's easier to get laid" bullshit.

Sounds to me like she found a couple of Kinsey 3s with massive cases of narcissism and self-denial.

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That article was so hard to read... I think the author must have stepped out of a 1950s time machine

LOOK AT THOSE HOT PICS! oh my god! who's reading the article? :p

The other articles are rather strange too, e.g.

http://men.style.com/details/blogs/details/2008/06/does-everyone-t.html#more

that talks about straight man who come over as gay and describes that as something challenging and unfair.

Or this one http://men.style.com/details/features/landing?id=content_4826

about heterophobia...

 

 

Pure logic is the ruin of the spirit.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Now it's clueless and insulting.

Funny, but Andy ALWAYS looked 80. Or more to the point (once his personality is added in) 15 going on 80. He was the world's most brilliant teenaged queen -- and I miss him terribly. He would have found tyhe "Details" piece hilarious and made an 8 hour movie about.

 

my gut reaction was, "This is a magazine for guys who totally gay...but haven't figured it out yet, and are still in denial."

Would that be an accurate assessment of it?

(I'll admit this is partly because I saw a co-worker of mine, who I think is really cute, reading a copy in the breakroom once. So there may be some wishful thinking on my part.)

 

It's for gay sleeping beauties.

I always thought the current Details is written for closet cases. They can bring it to work, and they can earn points by talking to their homophobic boss about hetrophobia, rather than Dancing With the Stars.

Some people, often men, aren't very romantically inclined until they are in their thirties, so while they may be bisexual (a Kinsy 1 or 2) they might not feel that straight when they are younger because they are unlikely to be attracted to ANY ONE romantically. When they finally are ready for romance, they might be more inclined toward women and see that as their true sexuality. I'm not threatened by that.

 

Back in the era when they had a gay editor during the 90's.  But I have noticed that since then there has been a creeping homophobia to the magazine.  Not extreme, just the usual straight guy gay-taunting kind of stuff.

This article makes me wonder however, because the slant in it was quite a bit more extreme.  The message was very clearly that gay guys may only think they're gay and can really "change" at any time. Which as I said before is very much the message being pushed by anti-gay groups these days. It feels like this was deliberate, and not just a general interest piece.

As for Details playing to a gay audience, perhaps not as much as you'd think. While it's true that your average Middle American guy doesn't care about designer fashions, you'd be amazed at how many urban guys were metrosexual long before it had a name.  When I was young and still trying to be straight I was surrounded by male friends who were obsessed with their hair and clothes, mostly because it was important for picking up girls in our geography.  To this day after 15 years I am the only one who has come out.

Bizarrely, I don't dress anywhere near as well to go out to gay bars as we used to when we went to straight ones.

Brock Savage already brought it up, but I wanted to again draw attention to the fact that the article states that bisexuals "rotate between male and female sex partners the way the rest of us alternate pairs of shoes." That's right, Ms. Magazine Contributor; a bisexual individual is someone completely oversexed and incapable of being in a committed relationship with anyone, due to always acting out on their lustful desires for both genders.

However - and this is important to know - the few bisexuals who manage to restrain themselves and stay with the same partner for, let's say, 6-12 months or or longer are no longer bisexual. Indeed, they have now turned either gay or straight, depending on which gender they are in a relationship with. And, if that relationship fails and they (amongst all odds) find themselves committing to a person of a different gender than their previous partner, it cancels out the sexual orientation we were supposed to identify them with.

This is all very complicated, so here's an illustrative example: Bob likes to sleep with both men and women. He just can't choose between them! Bob is bisexual. One day, Bob meets Joe. They like each other so much that they decide to be in a committed relationship. Bob is now gay. Sadly, three years later Bob and Joe break up and Bob eventually meets Sarah. Bob and Sarah decide that they can't live without each other and even buy a house together. Bob is now straight, and furthermore was never gay in the first place! The three years with Joe don't count, and let's not even mention all those years when Bob was "playing the field" and having sex with both genders (he was just confused).

God, that Details article was one of the dumbest things I had ever read. Obviously bisexuality is still a myth.

Ridiculous article from Details. And I'd like to be shocked by how ridiculous it is, but just check out any of the links at the bottom of the page -- 3 more absurd and similarly offensives pieces you can read and ruminate on.

Details has long been a vocal proponent of binary thinking -- straight or gay, committed monogamist or field-playing sexhound, east coast or west coast.

And when they can't find a pair of concepts to force beyond contrast into an either/or falicy, Details will just make something up, lest we forget their long-running (but now defunct) series "Gay or..."

Some my favs from that series: Gay or Mormon? Gay or Techie Nerd? Gay or Terrorist?

Thanks, Details, for helping make the world more reductive, one stupid article at a time... 

Andy loved good clothes and was intimate with everyone from Halston to Calvin Klein to Ralph Lauren but he would never have looked at Details until one of his myriad assistants had cut each model out of the isssue so he and Jon Gould could play paper dolls with them while wearing extravagant costume jewelry like a couple of eight year old girls. up im mommy's bedroom.

 

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