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Chemistry.com: "Nope, still gay"

If you watched Heroes last night (yes, I'm still obsessed -- and yes, last night's "five years in the future" episode held about as much water as a hammock, but that discussion's for another site), you might have been taken by surprise by an ad that ran in the first 20 minutes that featured a man reading a Penthouse magazine.

The ad isn't shocking because it features Penthouse (which is kind of shocking in and of itself, I guess -- this is a major show on a major network), but because of what happens next: after looking at the centerfold and smiling to himself, the guy closes the magazine, looks at the camera, and says, "Nope -- still gay".

The ad is for online dating site Chemistry.com, which it turns out is a site owned by dating monolith Match.com. And as the voiceover notes at the end of the commercial, the gag here is a reference to the fact that while other "spiritual" dating sites (i.e., ones that aren't just troughs filled with pictures but that do an in-depth personality profile and are geared toward more "serious" singles) like eHarmony don't allow same sex daters to apply, Chemistry.com does.

I took a look at the site and while it doesn't have any mention anywhere of this defining characteristic, I did take a shot at starting a profile and it does allow you to be a "man seeking man" (the language for the most part is also decidedly pronoun-agnostic -- but then again, there are both men and women in their target audience). Other than that, the only other suggestion that the site is sexuality-inclusive is that the logo features two linked circles -- not male/female symbols, just plain circles (which could therefore represent either gender).

Kind of interesting that they would do an entire television spot in what must be pretty expensive ad space to tout their gay-inclusiveness and not even mention it on their entire website, right?

And am I the only on that finds the placement of this ad during Heroes more than just a teeny bit ironic? "Nope -- still gay!"

nordic balance's picture

It's gay enough

I never thought to check if eHarmony is "gay" or not, but sure enough... it isn't! No mention of same-sex matching in the Help section either. I think Chemistry.com has taken the right approach with this. Advertising during a GLBT-themed show (or, at least, one more likely to be watched by a GLBT audience) and then not much of a mention otherwise. After all, we don't want special treatment, do we? Besides, Chemistry.com does have a relationship blog from Dan Savage, and he often explores gay issues. Not bad for a big corporation, IMHO.
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BillV's picture

What is more eye catching-Penthouse or the line?

Thanks for blogging about this. Last night my partner and I had to rewind the DVR to see this ad because the "Penthouse" caught our eye. Then we had to rewatch it to make sure we heard it right "Nope, still gay." I think it is a daring ad running during a top twenty show on a major network. I loved it.
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nordic balance's picture

My GAWD!

I can't BELIEVE that ran on network TV!
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nordic balance's picture

Loved it!

When the commercial ended I skwaked because I couldn't belive it. I felt so... NOTICED! Especially since just the day before I listened to a friend go on about the man she'd met on eHarmony, and I pointed out to her that I couldn't use that site since it wouldn't help ME find a man. Then the universe spoke right to me. It was an odd moment. -Jeremy
nordic balance's picture

Did it air every channel or

Did it air every channel or in selected channels/cities? Either way, pretty damn cool!
Timothy's picture

I did know that eHarmony

I did know that eHarmony specifically excludes gay people.  And I think it's cool that this site answers that question in a commercial.

 Also, I don't need the site to say "gay people welcome" if they have a "men seeking men" category available.  In fact, the idea that we aren't segregated feels more welcoming to me than if they made some big point about it and had some special "gays only" database.

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It put a smile on my face.

While I'm not into the whole online dating thing at all, whether it is eHarmony or chemistry.com (Like the person above, I didn't even know eHarmony excluded homosexuals), it still made me smile to think that a pro-gay commercial that was this in your face about it aired during one of the most popular shows on NBC right now.

It certainly beats the Superbowl commercials.

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It'd be funny if some of the people behind Chemistry.com actually bought the spot on Heroes to make fun of Dekker's management :D. I can see it now, two gay guys sitting and twirling imaginary mustaches while laughing manically.
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