New video blog! "Mores for Gays" (Episode 1): When PDA isn't just a Personal Digital Assistant
In our newest vlog series, Mores for Gays (no, we're not giving out abbreviated s'mores, and it rhymes!), Daniel Leary takes a look at the standards and practices of contemporary gay culture. It's kind of like a "Miss Manners" for Misters, only with more of an emphasis on entertainment and pop culture and less discussion of which hat to wear to which horse race and that kind of thing. In the first installment, Daniel discusses the issue of PDA, and whether the rules are different for gay couples than they are for straight people (or should be). Can a gay kiss be just a kiss if it's happening in front of the Dairy Queen? It can, and Daniel explains how. Check it all out after the break... Submitted by on Tue, 2008-06-03 08:00. |
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gay or straight...i don't like PDA....
All i Know is that i am very anti-pda...or pdaphobic. even back in the day when i was with boys, i would never let them hold my hand in public or even hug me goodbye at my front door. if you wanted to hug me, you would hug me in the house and i had to make sure that there were no family members around....
I've learned to be okay with hand holding, but that's about it...even pecks on the cheek make me extremely uncomfortable....whether it's me getting a peck or someone near me....i don't know where or what my "fear" stems from. it's weird, i know.
Yes, I know what you
Yes, I know what you mean... I'm a rather reserved person myself (when "out on the town" at least!), and really have very seldom even held hands with someone in public. Anything more than hand-holding, no, I've never done in front of other people! Now, in private, that's another thing entirely...heh, heh, heh...
I'm like a superhero, with no powers or motivation...
yeah, people....
yeah, people always comment on how amazed they are at me when i am in private with them. people tease me that i am like a 10 year old girl in public who doesn't know what to do with her things with the cute boy next to her...then they say "in private, you turn into an R rated character...." :-P
my weirdness with PDA actually goes beyond reality. if i am in a movie theatre or watching a tv show and two people are about to kiss or whatnot...i have to look away...but that's only when I have friends with me or a sibling...if it's just me, i can handle it just fine. EH
Explain it to the children
I'm always slightly confused what exactly think they would have to explain to children if those children saw a gay couple. I'd probaby just tell them "They really like each other/They are probably in a committed relationship". I really doubt that any kid too young to have heard of gay people would make the jump to ask what tab goes into which slot. (and even if they did I would probably lie and say they like to hold hand and kiss a lot ;))
Same for all "Gay couples exist, but our religion doesn't like it" explanations. Wouldn't really young kids really be too young for that too? Let them know it exists and wait for it to come up in Sunday school.
I guess I can understand people not liking their children to be exposed to PDA in general, but I'm not seeing why one sort should be more worrysome than the other.
My ex and I...
...back before 9/11, when you could still accompany passengers to the gate at the airport, my bf and I would always kiss goodbye when either of us were jetting off somewhere. We just did it naturally, didn't even think beforehand. And the world didn't come to an end, not once did we hear anybody say anything or respond (either negatively or positively).
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Brian is too cute!
Tammy Baldwin (D-WI)
Cute indeed but what strikes
Children see straight
Children see straight couples holding hands and kissing all the time so why wouldn't you want them to see gay couples doing the same thing, after all we don't want them to grow up thinking there's something wrong with being gay do we!
I think you should do it if you want to, if people saw it happen more often it wouldn't be such a big deal. If you're not comfortable then don't do it. A lot of the time I think people just want you to know that they've managed to score a date.
What are s'mores?
S'mores
Are you serious?
Get thee to a Girl Scout Camp immediately!
They are delicious snacks made of 2 graham crackers filled with a hershey bar and toasted marshmallow, preferably frshely toasted from a camp fire.
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What's a hershey bar?It's ok
What's a hershey bar?
It's ok I know what it is really, it's that stuff that passes for chocolate. Yukky. I got given a free one once and I'm glad I didn't have to pay for it.
Sorry, i'm a Brit we only have Girl Guides but I think they go in for the toasted marshmallows.
I don't know what a graham cracker is though.
Graham Crackers
Well nigella lawson uses graham crackers when she makes a crust for cheesecake, so they have to have them somewhere in the UK. But they are an American invention, they are this delicious whole wheat type cracker that is super tasty. Graham cracker crusts are big here too.
As for hershey, I'm not a huge fan, but that's what smores are traditionally made of. And I love Britian's love of candy, you guys take it serious. But British chocolate has to much milk solids for my taste. I prefer the swiss or belgian version.
Wasn't there a big brouhaha a while ago in the EU where the guidelines for what constitutes chocolate, as put forth by the Swiss delegation, meant that UK chocolate would not be considered chocolate anymore, because it has so much milk in it?
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That's right, British
Gay, Masculinity, and PDAs
I think when some straight guys see two guys kissing it threatens their own perception of masculinity. How to solve this? Both get a legal weapons permit and a shoulder holster. Two guys kissing in public wearing firearms will really throw off any viewers. :P
I think that is one great thing about Torchwood: Captain Jack still throws down when need be. For example, when he passionately kisses Captain John Hart (James Marsters) and then they thrash each other in a bar brawl. Speaking of which, ever notice how homoerotic that ultimate (cage) fighting is these days? I keep expecting KY or Trojan commercials as sponsors for it.
It would be nice to see more shows with masculine gay or bi male characters: a gay male cop lead character, or gay male soldier.
PDAs are great though because there is no other way to get any heteros-on-the-fence accustom to seeing romantic affection between fellas.
As far as what to tell the children, just tell them that real men aren't afraid to show their feelings.