AfterElton Briefs: More male bisexuality, Vogue Evolution talks, and happy birthday Stephen Fry!

Came in weak this time. They put up a good performance, the music was great, the dancers gorgeous.

 

But quite frankly? They gave their task no respect. From the auditions with not taking the martial art moves seriously (as if we needed more cat growls and limp-wristed scratching), to not doing any serious King-Fu move in their act. The assigned task was so blatantly ignored in their act, and I had to agree with that asswipe, Shane.

 

Good thing afroborike was rebuffed. The ass-drumming and blatant female-pushing at the judges' desks are so cheap. That's not how I want my merengue and salsa subcultures represented. Latin women are not cheap.

 Rhythm City will definitely take the crown this season unless they majorly mess up. VE will be top contenders if they get their act together and stop being so monotonic, but they just don't have the popular appeal to take the crown.

Gluing shut the doors of a Mormon church to protest Prop 8 is kind of great, I think. While I wouldn't join their group, I can totally understand their anger, and as yet, they haven't harmed anyone, so I don't really have a problem with them. And they have a point, our opponents are not playing nice with us, why should we play nice with them?

Not sure if the accompanying photo is really Bash Back or just some other random militant gay group (that phrase makes me laugh...i picture pink camo), but the picture is so ridiculous. Out of the closet and into...masks? Yeah, that's the epitome of courage, right there, folks!

I love Vogue Evolution, they really are a great and talented group of performers. Thier performance this week wasn't as incredible as last weeks but they're still a force to be reckoned with. Next week being Bollywood could go really well for them. Bollywood incorporates graceful hand movements, jumps, and even duck walking. All they need is a killer routine and they're back on top next week.

Many people may not agree with me but I don't think Danyl Johnson should have announced his bisexuality.  He should have just said gay or straight because let's admit it, male bisexuality is not exactly celebrated or accepted by mainstream America.  Sure it might look cute but most people frown upon male bisexuals (I admit I do too). 

Well I´m sorry, but if Danyl had just said he was gay or straight, he would be lying to himself and the rest of the world. The fact is he gets turned on by both men and women, why should he lie about it? There´s nothing wrong with it and it just opens more possibilities to fall in love. And anyway, who cares about mainstream America...this is the UK we don´t have as many hang ups as they, and obviously you, do.

Terry, regardless of how you feel about bisexuality (and I happen to believe it does exist in males and females), Daryl came out and is a contestant on the X-Factor in the UK, NOT in the US.  It doesn't really matter how mainstream America feels about it, he lives and is on a reality show in Britain.

 And I say to Daryl - kudos and high five!

i feel kinda bad for Daryl.

 even though i HATED is audition - thought it was OTT and faux modest - i can't help but cringe at the FUGLY pic everyones using every where.

he looks like a wrinkely/scrotum faced version of the alien from men in black

That picture doesn`t do him justice at all. I just finished watching the youtube clip and he is a very handsome fella.

I'm angry and I am standing up!  When I came out as gay I faced some family members and friends who looked down on me for a natural part of who I am.  For the most part  I've identified as gay because of the disparaging remarks I hear from gay men about bisexual men.  NO MORE.  I'm coming out.  I love men, but I love women too.   If you choose to look down on me for that, you're no better than the people that look down on YOU!  I even changed my profile to reflect that fact and from now on I am an out and proud bisexual man!

I think you're victim of the massively partisan mindset of American people, which also extends to questions of sexuality. As a nation we are divided into Democrats and Republican or Liberals versus Conservatives. People who are self-described political moderates are often sneered at for being too "weak" to take a side. In almost every issue we tend to adopt an either/or or us/them mentality. It's a rather negative side of our culture.

Bisexuals have always had a hard time in this environment, to the point that many people in America don't even believe that they really exist. This often wreaks havoc in debates over sexual politics. If a bisexual person ends up marrying someone of the opposite sex they are often pointed at as a "cured gay". Or if they go the other way and take up with a same-sex partner after having relationships with the opposite-sex they're seen as "proof" that homosexuality is a "choice". It creates a lot of conflict, mostly because too many people are too stupid to comprehend the Kinsey Scale.

But you notice for example that it seems like many Western Europeans have a less difficult time grasping the idea, or at least their soap operas would lead you to believe so. Christian on Verbotene Liebe, Deniz on Alles Was Zaehlt and Giles on Clara Sheller are all examples of bisexual male characters. Which is still something highly unusual as bisexual characters on television are usually female because it's less "controversial".

In any case, you shouldn't feel any hesitance about being out as a bisexual. My personal belief is that not only is it better for you, it's better for the whole LGBT community. Bisexuality is real, and people in America need to learn to comprehend the nuances of sexuality better than they do now. 

So don't hide it. Be who you are. 

 I must admit that I am one of those in our community that has said on occasion that "bisexuality is just the rest stop on the way to Gay Town." I want to believe that sexuality is a fluid primal biological urge that leads us to a healthy relationship of love and respect in addition to satisfying the sexual nature of our being. However, I am hesitant to believe that although I support our bisexual brothers and sisters in their pursuit of non-discrimination.

My hesitancy is more based on my own struggle to find myself as a homosexual and the evolving science of sexual attraction. As Psionycx said above, I fear that bisexuality will be a "condition" that our opponents will use against gays and lesbians in their game to dissuade others from supporting us in our pursuit of equality. What it is though in its basic sense is an attempt to understand the world in black and white. We as people in general try to put things in familiar slots and we all have to realize that isn't so and is the real reason we have discord and discrimination in our world. However, with that respect of difference has to be the realization that respect does not always come without consequences.

In the end though, I am moving myself to a place where I can accept the idea of bisexuality (not the kind continuously joked about as happening in college) and that it too has a place in our world. My friend Lior has just made me think about that... this why we must continually be out in our workplaces and lives so no one has the excuse that they do not know a gay man, a lesbian, a bisexual, or a transgender person. As a consequence we must also realize that this may be initially difficult and dangerous, but it is through our honesty that hope springs eternal for those who come after us.  

 

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"Being a bitch doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person."

 I couldn't help but laugh at Unity Point #3 stating oppressive behavior is not to be tolerated. So much for practicing what you preach.

Yeah, this reminds me of the old snark about radical groups :  come the revolution, everyone who isn't tolerant enough will be lined up against a wall and shot.