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British civil unions now mainstream

Interesting article in the Guardian Unilimited looking at how the issue of civil unions have settled out in the UK now that they've been legal for eighteen months. The writer, Paul Flynn, is surprised at how easy the transition has been. As proof he cites the fact that John Barrowman's (that's him in his wedding kilt) nuptials were featured in OK! Magazine which is apparently the official British seal of mainstream acceptance. Sort of like People Magazine in the US I guess.

Part of the reason for the easy acceptance? According to Flynn, it has at least something to do with the union of Elton John and David Furnish and the huge public fanfare that accompanied it. The idea being that treating their big day just like Tom and Nicole, or Tom and Kate, or Tom and whoever comes next, normalizes the idea for the average Joe. I suspect there is truth in that, although it could also be seen as something only radical elites, rich folks, and eccentrics do unless the gay guys next door also exchange vows. And that, says Flynn, might not be the case.

He himself feels a little ambivalent about the acceptance from his heterosexual counterparts and wonders if the GLBT community isn't giving up some of its uniqueness and identity. Says Flynn:

I still know of people who talk with nostalgia of their connection of kinship with "the gay community" pre-legalisation. Where once I would have thought this reactionary, now I know what it feels like to have something you had struggled to have taken seriously become a statutory norm. It undermines your own story.

Interesting thoughts, but there is no going back and, not to state the obvious, change is the one thing that can't be stopped. Barrowman's being on the cover of OK! might not be the height of cultural achievement, but I'm glad for it nonetheless if helps further our cause. I look forward the first People Magazine cover featuring a gay couple getting hitched.

David Ehrenstein's picture

Mainstream is As Mainstream Does

 Elton John is regarded by the British masses as a decidedly beloved figure -- a purveyor of goodtime music redolent of the neighborhood pub. Consequently everyone loves him AND David. In much the same way Doctor Who is as central to British life as the Royal Family. More so in many respects. And who can resist the gorgeous John Barrowman -- especially in that fetching kilt? In short Gay Marriage has "arrived" in Old Blighty.

Time for us on the other side of the pond to catch up.

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nordic balance's picture

Actually "OK!" magazine was

Actually "OK!" magazine was featuring gay weddings even before they became legal. When British actress Sophie Ward "married" her partner Rena Brannan in 2000, "OK!" ran a feature on it and even helped pay for the wedding (presumably on the condition that they got to have an exclusive on it). It is a bit of a reactionary magazine, and I don't know if the fact that they feature gay couples exactly indicates approval... I think it's more that they just love celebrities, and they love gossip... and hey, a celebrity gay wedding makes for good gossip, right? As for Paul Flynn... no disrespect to him, but it honestly makes me sick to hear someone talking with "nostalgia" about the days pre-legislation. Those were AWFUL days! And really, what on earth does he mean - "now I know what it feels like to have something you had struggled to have taken seriously become a statutory norm. It undermines your own story." Give me a break - if you have struggled to have something taken seriously, and now it IS being taken seriously, then what on earth have you got to complain about? That doesn't "undermine" you... it validates you. I don't have ANY nostalgia whatsoever for the days when gay couples weren't allowed to form legal partnerships and didn't have legal protection at work.
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Michael Jensen's picture

His comments didn't

really resonate with me either