Confusion Over Whether Chris Colfer is Gay or Not

People just didn't want to hear about homosexuality.

Now, a lot of people have no problem with it, but Hollywood still assumes they do. So we get people who are told to stay in the closet, and over time I do think that has a negative affect on how the public views gays. It goes hand in hand with what we hear over and over about states rejecting gay rights, as it usually ends up tied together. It just reinforces for a lot of people, gay and straight, that there's something wrong with being gay.

Again, if Colfer is not gay, or wants to say he is not, that's up to him. I just think the overall tone of Hollywood is one that tells us homosexuality is not something to talk about. 

David, the poor kid has given every indication that he's gay and he's not once said he's straight. Can you get over yourself in saying that he's somehow trying to be closetted. You're saying you're a journalist and you're saying that you're experienced in Hollywood - but despite all your books, you're showing precious little expertise in this.

Will you please get off your high horse. The kid is 19 years old and he's given relatively unambiguous answers about his sexuality. He's also told another journalist to piss off because he doesn't want to discuss his sex life when he's discussing his job,

Tell me man, how many 19-year-olds have you ever met in your professonal life who've come out at such a young age in the public eye? And once they do, do they have to come out at every single opportunity?

Frankly David, you're part of the problem here - not the solution. The kid's already come out, but he's not out enough for your tastes.

This is your problem (and the problem of several other posters here) not Colfer's. You've spent all these years saying actors should be open about their sexuality and when one of them is, you're all over him because he's not being open according to your rules. Frankly you - and several other posters here - are rank hypocrites.

You've spent so much of your career saying that people shouldn't be ashamed of being gay. And then when a young man says he is gay, you're criticising him for not being the right kind of gay.

Are you the right kind of gay, David? Is anyone on this site? Is there an exam we have to pass? Do we need a ranking system in which we all carry ID cards that show exactly how gay we are?

Frankly, this discussion about Colfer has devolved into the worst kind of drunken bitch fight you'd find in a low-rent gay bar near to closing time. The kid has answered questions truthfully according to his own lights and you're pissing all over him because he's not saying things the way you want him to say them.

Seriously, I don't care what age you or anyone else came out. If you came out as a three-year-old, that doesn't make you any better as a human being or as a gay man than someone who comes out at 70.

You are not the arbiter on what is right or wrong when it comes to being gay. If you want to be the gay messiah, then form a cult. L Ron Ehrenstein even has a kind of cute ring to it. But don't beat up a 19-year-old on this site and think it's going to make you converts. Really, what you're doing is not cool.

... were omitted in my post, for taking this stand.

I am always amazed that so many people conclude every actor is absolutely gay because of some rumored gay experience -- not only obliterating the range of sexuality human beings experience that I noted above, but also forgetting that when people go to Hollywood, become famous in the world of "showbiz" at a young age --  WHILE they may be figuring out their sexuality --- they may not be lying when they say they're not gay, or prefer to keep it quiet, lest they be condemned for homophobia when they say they're bisexual or open-minded or questioning.   

The very reason many young gay men are able to have heterosexual sex when we're young is that we're often so hyped up with hormones at that age our bodies will let us have sex with just about anybody.   Not all gay men are like this, but many men who accept a gay identity are.  This is why some of us can honestly say we're bisexual on the way to becoming gay, as many of us have.  And most of us have had the chance to figure out who we are in private, out of the spotlight.  We had enough pressure to deal with public homophobia, not to mention prejudice in our own families. With our different experiences we all came to accept ourselves or know ourselves at very different times.   We may think we would all be role models in the spotlight, but we might disappoint even ourselves.

I cannot imagine what it would have been like to figure out who I am as private gay person while trying to be a "public figure" -- to live up to the expectations of some very strident people in the gay community to confirm my sexuality and EXACTLY what label I wanted for myself, while I was experimenting bisexuality -- at age 19 -- and trying to explain that to the world, including people who demanded I declare myself to be gay because they were so sure I was just in denial and not doing what my hormones urged me to do AT THAT AGE.

After Elton is taking exactly the right stand, in my opinion, and Michael, Brent, and the rest of the team deserve the credit for starting this dialogue in a compassionate way.

Go back and read your post and your reply.  You now claim you're surprised no one he has figured out his sexuality at 19 because "there is not a single straight person you klnow" who did not figure out his sexuality.  AGAIN, assuming you're correct on this point -- and you're not -- you're assuming because MANY people figure out their sexuality at 19, you're SURPRISED that ANYONE is.

That idea is absurd.  AGAIN, I say, there are many people, whether because of hormones, psychological issues, or their own experiences, do NOT know what they are exactly at 19. I know many people who are SO sexual at 19 they can have sex with men and women and genuinely convince themselves they're bisexual and are not just saying that.  They LATER come to believe they're gay based on their relationships.

So how do you reconclile your SURPRISE based on people you know with people that I and other people know?  You CAN'T.  Because everyone's experiences are not the same.

And the ONLY reason you're surprised is that you continue to believe that every individual should be like "Most" people you know -- and you DID include your experience of coming out at 16 in your ideal situation should come out at 19 in other situations. READ YOUR POST.

And by the way -- your claim that EVERY straight person you know knew they were straight at 19?  REALLY?  You asked them this?  You know who EACH and EVERY one of them is really attracted to?  No, you don't.  You know what they TOLD you or how they held themselves out to the public.

Studies show that many of those people have same-sex fantasies, and many of them may have been figuring out their sexuality and not told it to YOU.

Again I say, do some research.