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Laughing your way out of the closet: Five of television's funniest coming-out scenes

For a lot of people, the coming-out process can include awkward silences, uncomfortable questions, and sincere but cringe-inducing attempts at acceptance. In other words, perfect fodder for comedy!

On Brothers & Sisters, Uncle Saul (played by Ron Rifkin) spent a lifetime in the closet, and after coming out to his sister and gay nephew in two very dramatic scenes, went the Three's Company route last night in coming out to the rest of the family. In a classic "misunderstanding", Saul mistakenly believed his nieces and nephews were talking about his gayness behind his back, and outed himself ... to the shock of his family. Yes, it was a creaky old plot device, but it worked, primarily because it was a complete 180 from his heart-to-heart with Kevin. See for yourself:

The inherent drama in coming out can be mined for truly memorable comedy. In this light, we've hand-picked five other moments when coming out of the closet has been used for comedic effect. Enjoy!

Absolutely Fabulous - "Serge is gay?"

We finally meet the long lost Serge, and Edina is ecstatic ... until she opens her mouth, and Serge realizes why he left in the first place.

Four more coming-out classics after the break!

The Catherine Tate Show - "Did you hear about our John?"

The skit that answers the question "Is there such a thing as too accepting?" When John comes out to his mother, he doesn't get the reaction he was expecting. What follows for poor John is hilariously embarassing, culminating in a very special Christmas gift. (Warning, some NSFW language herein)

Little Britain - "Daffyd comes out"

Homosexual gay Daffyd has finally decided to come out to his parents, who are strangely underwhelmed with the declaration. Poor Daffyd ... not only does he not get the shocked and horrified reaction he was hoping for, but it appears that he may not actually be "the only gay in the village". (Warning, more NSFW language ... British television!)

The Office - "Gay Witch Hunt"

Oscar has reluctantly come out of the closet, and boss from hell Michael is trying his appalling, excruciating best to diffuse the situation.

Consenting Adult - 1985 made-for-tv movie

Finally, I'm including a clip that, unlike the others, in unintentionally funny. Consenting Adult was a 1985 tv movie with Martin Sheen and Marlo Thomas as the parents of a young man ... with a secret. Their son is played by one of my favorite 80's heartthrobs, Barry Tubb, who you may remember from The Legend of Billie Jean ("Fair's fair!"), his role as Wolfman in Top Gun, or the arty soft core classic Warm Summer Rain (which reminds me, I need to replace the worn-out vhs copy i have). As I recall, the movie wasn't that bad, but this promo for it is a gut buster, filled with ANGUISH!, TEARS!, and a narrator who does everything but declare, "It's every parent's worst nightmare!"

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  • Pabasa's picture

    Mrs. O'Leary

    My personal favourite, Catherine Tate's Mrs. O'Leary's acceptance of her son being gay never fails to make me laugh every time I watch it, even if I've seen it since like, 4-5 months ago.

    Ah, if only my mum was that accepting.

    Though maybe it's better this way.

    Steven Frank's picture

    Consenting Adults

    thanks snicks for the great blog post -- totally hysterical. I so have to get my hands on a copy of Consenting Adults. For one thing, I have a total Marlo Thomas fixation ever since Free To Be You and Me. (I actually met her at my first post-college job in publishing, when she was doing a book tour for a book about her father. I couldn't manage to get out any actual words and just grinned like a moron.) Also I have vague memories of watching it, and I think it might have been one of those movies that made me scared to come out to my parents and put it off even longer.
    Randommer's picture

    I love the Tate sketch...

    Those Nordies do like to march...

    I never realised they re-cast John and the dad. Hadn't seen those ones before. I like the first John better though.

    Pabasa's picture

    I agree

    The newer John is obviously acting and overemphasizing the innocence. And as an actor he's not that good at mimicking the Northern Irish accent either.

    Too bad. The first John is cuter.

    Randommer's picture

    I'm always really impressed

    I'm always really impressed with Catherine Tate's accents. Northern accents are not easy to pull off.
    dback's picture

    Where's Jo-Go Leavitt on "That 70's Show"?

    Future epitaph: "It seemed like a good idea at the time."

     I like this bunch largely because I'm unfamiliar with them, so it's nice to get some different perspectives.  Strangely, I seem to remember a lot (a LOT) of NBC sitcoms with people coming out--well, over a 25-year block, it's not surprising.  I definitely recall gays on "Cheers" "Night Court" "My Name Is Earl" "Frasier" "Friends" and of course "Will and Grace" just to name a few. 

     One of my favorite coming-out episodes involved Joseph Gordon Leavitt on "That 70's Show" coming out to Eric (Topher Grace).  I really liked how nonchalant he was about the whole thing--more of a 90's attitude than a 70's one, perhaps, but still funny.  (And loved the kiss with Eric in the car.)

    Thomas is a terrific dramatic actress--if you ever get a chance to see her in "Nobody's Child" or "The Lost Honor of Katharine Beck" you'll be blown away at how good she is.  And I remember she had some truly stellar scenes in "Consenting Adult," most of them very quiet, like when she initially reacts to Jeff's coming out (before breaking down while driving home), or reacting to her friend's chatter about imagining Jeff marrying her daughter.  And she and Martin Sheen really seem like a long-married couple.  I think she was up for a Golden Globe for this movie, along with Gena Rowlands in "An Early Frost."  I don't know what Barry Tubb is doing now, but he was exceptionally brave to take on this role, and the gay community owes him a thank-you for it.  (I think Talia Balsam, George Clooney's ex, was Jeff's sister in this movie, and also had a couple really good scenes with Thomas.)  By the way, if you get a chance to track down Laura Z. Hobson's largely autobiographical novel, it's worth the effort.

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    Consenting Adult

    WHOA! I can't believe it's been 23 years since Consenting Adult aired. Man, do I feel old. I remember watching the film avidly when it was first on television; there simply wasn't much gay content on network television then. (Wait a minute, there still isn't---but I suppose the situation has improved over the past couple of decades.) I loved the film, and have always wanted to see it again, but have never had the opportunity; far as I know it was never released on video. I was hoping that Logo would air it sometime, but I don't think they ever did...

    That trailer is a bit ridiculous, though; I don't quite remember the film as being so melodramatic! Now I really am curious to view this once more; anyone here have an "in" with those in charge of programming at Logo?

    I'm like a superhero, with no powers or motivation...

    Smartypants's picture

    Did you hear about our John?

    John is played by the adorable Kevin Trainor who had a small role in Hellboy and more recently in the HBO special John Adams performing the part of younger son Charles Adams. Trainor has played gay in the role of Alan Cummings lover in the 2006 East End production of Bent. Hope we see lots more of him in the future.  More on that performance at www.curtainup.com/bent.html
    VioletFemme's picture

    Absolutely Fabulous - We were cold

    "We were cold!" That line had me laughing for days.

     

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