KINKYMACHINE...what to do??

I am hetro,kinda,although I have experimented.I have been an active tranny since very,very young.I have played out many x-dress roles with female lovers as well as literally ALL other known aspects of filthy kink and fetish that are known to exist. I have two gay friends who I trusted with "the secret" also. I have experimented with them only in recent years although it was really just them thanking me as I used to protect them both when they had first come out as far back as highschool and were assaulted and harrassed for being gay.They seem to have thought they could convert me because I am so very kinky, however I truly am not attracted to men.THE BIG PROBLEM is that they are both on a campaign to tell everyone in my small town that I am a transvestite and gay. I do not feel this is anyone's business.I have known them for 20 years and they seem to feel annoyed knowing that I love everything sexual except for men.I live in an area where this could hurt me financially.I feel that women ponder that I may be secrectly gay....hetro male friends also think I may be gay because my only two gay friends on the planet told them so.Now I am hit on by a few other gay men I barely know and women in general act as if I may be gay so why bother with him. I just NEED what I have always apparently been extremely fortunate to have had in the past..... Hot women who are into ALL kink and fetishism with NO judgement and criticism. Why are people so cofused regarding what transvestitism is all about???