Closeted Gay Men on TV

Today I watched Oprah.  There was a short but embarrassing segment about open marriages.  The segment only included one couple.  This couple decided to have an open marriage more than a year ago.  The wife took another man as her boyfriend.  This boyfriend also has another women which he wants to commit to.    But the embarrassing thing is that the husband is a closeted gay man.  That wasn't explained yet you could tell he was gay.  The husband briefly talked about his extramarital relationships never mentioning the gender of people he pursued.

A few weeks ago I stumbled upon The Pick Up Artist on VH1.  It's a show where a professional pick up artist teaches guys who have been unsuccessful attracting women how to pick them up.  At least two of the contestants are gay if not half of them.  As I was watching this show I was wondering who screened these guys?  Cosmo, the winner, is one that I suspect as being gay.

You may remember several months ago on the first episode of Confessions of a Matchmaker that a closeted gay man asked the matchmaker to find a woman for him.  The date didn't work out.  When the matchmaker called the woman to see how the date went she eventually told her that she thinks he might be gay.  This led to a conversation with the man about his sexuality.  He came out and went on a date with another man.

Why do closeted gay men have to prove their "straightness" on TV?  They are gay and it's embarrassing seeing them try to prove they are straight.

This leads to another point I want to make.  Oprah is having a show on Thursday on divorce and how it affects children.  A three year old will be on to show that even at that age children know the gravity of the situation.  I think gay kids understand the social world at that age and it shapes their behavior.  Seeing their parents together and other opposite-sex couples on a regular basis directs their focus to sexual orientation and gender.  Kids know early what sexual orientation is (on a very basic level). For straight kids there are many people in life and in media that are like them so there focus in on being like those that are like them.  While for gay kids there are little respresentation of gay couples.  This leads to many gay kids to identify with people of the opposite sex (ex. Chris Crocker's Leave Britney Alone video) because their attraction is with people of the same sex.  This is just a hypothesis of mine.  I explained it the best way that I could.  There is a disconnect from the biological traits of gay people and the sociological traits.  The biological evidence show:

"gay men are hypermasculinized... higher than normal levels of testosterone circulating in the blood, and larger genitalia than heterosexual men."