AE: Jesse, has your
boyfriend seen that episode yet? If so, how did he react?
JB: Oh, I warned him. As soon as I saw JD I knew the tricks. There's two
gay guys so they're totally going to try to push us together. I warned him and
he was like, "Okay." [laughs] As soon as I saw it was a cute gay guy
I knew exactly where it was going to go. Within the first thirty seconds I was
like, "Yep, there she goes." She was like, "Oh, you guys are
gay! You should date!"
JDJ: They're either going to try to
make us hate each other at the beginning or they're going to try to push
together.
JB: Exactly. We're supposed to
either be arch enemies or bed buddies. In the end, we just became friends.
JDJ: It might not be what people
want to hear, but it's the truth.
AE: I think we're all so
tired of the TV stereotypes of gay guys either being bitchy queens or
promiscuous whores. It's nice to see two gay guys just being friends for a
change. But speaking of your boyfriend, Jesse, can you tell us a bit about him?
JB: My boyfriend! We met out and about once, and we didn't talk to each
other for a couple of months. Then, thanks to the genius that is MySpace, he
wished me a happy birthday last June. My response to him wishing me a happy
birthday was, "So when are you taking me to dinner anyway?" So, he
took me out to dinner, and I remember thinking it was funny because I never
respond to MySpace stuff, but I did that time.
We went out that once and
it was just on. I'm feeling very lucky to have him in my life. He's not in the
entertainment industry, which is great … I can be all over the map and he's
really helped me become centered and feel safe. For the first time in my life,
I have a really wonderful, healthy relationship. When something goes bad, think
the tendency in so many gay relationships is to just throw in the towel, but
I've met someone who every time I was like, "Oh well, that's it. He's just
going to leave," he's stayed there and listened and held my hand and we
talked it through. I'm just like, "Who are you? Are you like a
unicorn?"
It's just sort of grown
from there. I thank God every day. I thank the Universe every day that he's in
my life. It's just been the most wonderful, tripped out journey. We just met
the families. [laughs] We went up to Washington
State and met each
other's families.
JDJ: Awww!
JB: Yeah. It's happening. It's real.
JDJ: I never met him, but from the
warm-up [Bravo's preview of the coming season] he looks very cute, so I'm happy
for the two of you.
JB: Oh my Gosh! It was so funny with
that, because the only thing showed of him, he's on for like a hot second in
the preview and they show us kissing, and when he saw that, his heart stopped
and his skin melted off of his bones and he was just like, "Oh my
God!"
JDJ: Oh, that's so cute!
AE: JD, both in your bio and on the show, you talk about being a
caretaker personality. How much did that play into your decision to become a
massage therapist?
JDJ: It was a huge part. I think I
got a lot of work from it because I tried to make a difference and help people.
It's important for me to touch people, I mean literally, but also just to touch
their lives or make a difference. There's not a lot of jobs where I can either
massage someone or train someone and make an impact in that one hour, and the
show's really good for that.
It's just my personality.
I'm trying not to do that in relationships, because I don't want to get into
relationships and think I have to fix someone or change something to get value
from the relationship.
AE: Are you seeing someone now, JD?
JDJ: I was. We actually just broke up.
JB: Oh, I'm glad you said that, because I was actually just texting him,
"What happened to home boy?" [laughs]
JDJ: Yeah, um, we just broke up four days ago.
JB: What happened?
JDJ: He's great. I have zero negative things to say about him. He's an
amazing guy, but sometimes you have to have common goals or be able to see a
future with someone. I'm all for having fun and running around with your
boyfriend and having him be your best friend, but I want to meet someone who
can be my partner, someone I can have kids with someday. I'm only twenty-six
but—
JB: You're looking for a husband?
JDJ: Yeah, I mean, ultimately, that's the goal … I would like kids in my
early thirties, and I do want a partner. I don't know your boyfriend, Jess, but
from the sounds of it, you have a really deep relationship and that's what I
want, even if it's not forever. Even if I'm not having kids with the person, I
want some spirituality in my relationship. I wasn't feeling that with this guy.
I don't know. Amazing guy, just bad timing maybe.
Season Three of Work Out debuts on Bravo April 15th at 11/10 CST
Lovin' JD
I'm liking JD. He seems humble and wise. I agree with his assessment of Greg Plitt. He wants to be a father which I love. I also want to be a father. I hope he finds a man that is perfect for him so they can start a beautiful family together.
I was one of the people that was critical of Jesse's weight gain. Gay men should not encourage obesity. We have enough problems as it is. Jesse is a young man, I knew that not only did he not like being overweight other men did not like it as well. I think Jesse looks good and is moving in the right direction; he has pecs now, hurray. A few gay men do have an unreal idea of what is naturally possible for a man's body, I agree with that. However, the majority of gay men are sensible about a man's body. The death threats and hate mail Jesse received because of his weight gain are unexceptable.
Evan, I don't think we need to worry about Gay Men encouraging
How would you know?
As a gay man who has never been and never had the hope to be anything like the shape that is "in"...I find it repulsive when a couple of beautiful men who've had the "look" since birth go on and on about how us trolls should just be happy with the skin we have.
puh-leeeez....Genes work both ways. Perfect faces and perfect bodies are more a gift from one's parents than anything else, AND YET, those of us who are round from generations of round people are either encouraged to "exercise more and eat less"--what, 12 hours a day on a cup and a half of celery?--or to ignore the ostracism and insults to be "comfortable in our own skin."
What could these genetically blessed idjits know about any of this? How could men born beautiful, for whom an hour of exercise a day and skipping the fries at lunch is enough to maintain that perfection, for whom losing 5 pounds is the ultimate challenge they'll ever face, know ANYTHING about the struggle to be comfortable in one's own skin when, just like the color of one's hair or the shape of one's chin, that skin came with the inheritance of carrying 50 to 100 lbs in a round body?
So, beautiful darlings, just stand there and be beautiful, which is more a testament to the genetic gift from your parents than how much you work out or how little you eat and keep the pontifications regarding something you can't possibly have experienced or know anything about to yourselves.
lol ik what u means its not