AfterElton's Trending Topics: Will You Tie the Knot?

This weekend, Pride celebrations were even more jubilant than usual thanks to New York becoming the latest state to recognize same-sex marriages. Thanks to the size of New York, this nearly doubles the number of people who are treated equally under their state's marriage laws in the U.S.. This was a big step forward for same-sex couples fighting to have their relationships treated equally.

Thus, it should be no surprise that the big topic of conversation in the AfterElton break room this week was, "Would you get married if it were recognized where you live?"

The responses showed a range of experiences including long-term relationships, flexible arrangements and people happy to be single.

But we don't want to just hear from AE writers, this is an issue that has spurred discussion for a long time. We'd love to hear about our readers' different takes on the issue. So in the comments, tell us if you see yourself getting married, staying single or something in between.

From the staff...

JT Riley

Oh, man, totally. Totally. Getting married is my fondest wish.

I'm a traditional guy. I used to think I was really outside-the-box and iconoclastic. Turns out I'm just like everybody else ... except, ya know, gay.

I also think a gay wedding would be really fun to plan, because you're not bound to these ritualistic steps like straight weddings: groom is at altar, bride has big entrance, etc. You get to make up new traditions, which I think is pretty awesome.

But obviously marriages aren't really about weddings — they're about the life you live together. And even though the marriage of my parents — which many of us view as the template of what a marriage is supposed to be  — failed, I still believe I'm meant for marriage one day. I know I could be a good husband. I've always been oriented towards monogamy, always believed there was just one person out there who could fill all of my needs, and I his. I've always wanted to make a home with one man, and grow old with him.

Now I just gotta find him.

David and Keith's wedding on Six Feet Under

Heather Hogan

I live in the foothills of the north Georgia mountains where the Southern Baptist church still has such legislative pull that it's illegal to buy beer on Sundays, so it's hard for me to imagine same-sex marriage ever being legal in my hometown. However, if River Song would be my wife, I would move anywhere in the universe(s) — anywhere in history or the future — to make her mine. Me and her, time and space, you watch us gay-marry.

River Song from Doctor Who

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Chris O'Guinn

This is kind of a complicated question for me. First of all, I can already get married to a woman if I happened to fall in love with one. Since I am in a committed relationship with a guy, though, that seems profoundly unlikely.

Secondly, this question sort of obligates me to speak for my partner, which I'm not really comfortable doing. The question about whether or not I would get married is inextricably intertwined with whether or not we would get married and we, as a couple, haven't come to a decision on that.

I've been married, so for me, this isn't something I have pined for my whole life and never been able to achieve. However, it is also not something which scares me or worries me in any way.

So I suppose the only answer I can give is that yes, I would get married — if my partner wanted to, but it is not something that has any sort of emotional resonance with me.

Michael and Ben marry on Queer as Folk

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Christie Keith

Considering how over-the-moon I am every time another state passes laws for marriage equality, and how destroyed I was by the passage of Prop 8 in my home state of California, you'd think I was just dying to go to the chapel and marry my sweetie (if I had one, which at the moment, I don't!).

But no. The reality is, I'm just too selfish and too content with my own company and that of my dogs to add another person to my life in a live-together, committed relationship kind of way.

Marriage equality matters to me because feeling like I'm being shoved into a second class of citizenship makes me want to burn buildings down and scream and break things, but I personally don't have any desire to even live with someone, let alone marry her.

Just don't tell me I can't.

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